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Priority: what you give precedence to.
Goal: what you want to achieve.
Are they the same thing? No.

Yet we often confuse them, and that’s a mistake that complicates our lives — quite a bit, actually.

How many times do you hear: “My goal is to make a lot of money so I can travel the world.”
Then you find those same people on the sofa, watching TV. Right then, the priority isn’t “make money.” It’s “stay on the sofa.”


Of course, you also have to ask what that sofa represents. Is it just laziness? Or maybe it’s a way to absorb information, to relax, to anesthetize yourself?

Those who have a clear goal work to achieve it.
Those who truly know their priorities manage to advance more effectively toward what they want.

This is where we must start: understanding the real goals.
Remove the veneer of “trickery” society has skillfully applied.
Take back our authentic SELF.
(Yes, written like that it looks like a “0” and a “1”, like an old typewriter… gives that Matrix touch I like so much.)

Because if you don’t know who you are, you can’t know where you’re going.
Let alone how. Or when.

The uncomfortable questions

You have to ask yourself questions. Many. Deep. Uncomfortable.
Only then do you reach the truth.
When the questions begin to run out, you’re close to the root.

Practical example:

“I want to make a lot of money to travel around the world.”
But since I spend my afternoons on the sofa, a new uncomfortable question imposes itself:
“Do I want to make a lot of money, or do I want TO HAVE a lot of money?”

Crossroads.
Someone who’s honest might answer: “I want to have it.”

Now there are just threee choices:

1. They make peace with their heart and wait to win the lottery.
2. They actually start working to earn it.
3. They stop telling themselves that sentence and look inside for another, more authentic goal.

None of the three is easy.
Even giving up a dream is painful.
But continuing to dream it without taking a step is even more frustrating.

So what now?

More questions

Why do I want to go around the world?

• To see new places?
• To eat different dishes?
• To meet people?
• To tell what I see?
• Or… simply because I feel bad where I am?

If it’s the latter… everything changes.
It’s not a desire to explore. It’s a need to escape.

And if the problem is where you are, maybe you could simply move.
But even here: be careful.

Why do I feel bad where I am?

• Is it the people? (Wherever you go, you’ll find other people.)
• Is it the place? (Climate, landscape, rhythms?)
• Is it the state? (Culture, rules, values?)

And we’re only at the beginning.

How do you understand what you want?

Maybe you need to stop, for a while, wanting.
Only then can thought start to wander freely again.

Stopping wanting isn’t easy.
We live constantly bombarded by desires that aren’t ours.
From the earliest years, our “wants” are influenced by everything: family, school, media. Even by those who love us and mean well.

So it’s about making a clean slate.

And where do you start from?

From TV.

Conclusion (or beginning)

Turn off the TV tonight.
And ask yourself: “What do I truly desire, if no one were watching me?”

The answers won’t come immediately.
But that’s the path.