{"id":191,"date":"2025-09-22T09:08:30","date_gmt":"2025-09-22T09:08:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/and-this-is-what-i-keep-talking-about\/"},"modified":"2025-09-24T09:26:46","modified_gmt":"2025-09-24T09:26:46","slug":"and-this-is-what-i-keep-talking-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/and-this-is-what-i-keep-talking-about\/","title":{"rendered":"And this is what I keep talking about."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Priority<\/strong>: what you give precedence to.<br\/><strong>Goal<\/strong>: what you want to achieve.<br\/>Are they the same thing? No. <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yet we often confuse them, and that\u2019s a mistake that complicates our lives \u2014 quite a bit, actually.<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How many times do you hear: <em>\u201cMy goal is to make a lot of money so I can travel the world.\u201d<\/em><br\/>Then you find those same people on the sofa, watching TV. Right then, the priority isn\u2019t \u201cmake money.\u201d It\u2019s \u201cstay on the sofa.\u201d<br\/><br\/>  <br\/>Of course, you also have to ask what that sofa represents. Is it just laziness? Or maybe it\u2019s a way to absorb information, to relax, to anesthetize yourself?  <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Those who have a clear goal work to achieve it.<br\/>Those who truly know their priorities manage to advance more effectively toward what they want.<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is where we must start: understanding the <strong>real <\/strong>goals.<br\/>Remove the veneer of \u201ctrickery\u201d society has skillfully applied.<br\/>Take back our authentic <strong>SELF<\/strong>.<br\/>(Yes, written like that it looks like a \u201c0\u201d and a \u201c1\u201d, like an old typewriter\u2026 gives that <em>Matrix <\/em>touch I like so much.)<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because if you don\u2019t know who you are, you can\u2019t know where you\u2019re going.<br\/>Let alone how. Or when. <\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The uncomfortable questions<\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You have to ask yourself questions. Many. Deep. Uncomfortable.<br\/>Only then do you reach the truth.<br\/>When the questions begin to run out, you\u2019re close to the root.   <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Practical example:<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>\u201cI want to make a lot of money to travel around the world.\u201d<\/em><br\/>But since I spend my afternoons on the sofa, a new uncomfortable question imposes itself:<br\/><em>\u201cDo I want to make a lot of money, or do I want TO HAVE a lot of money?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Crossroads.<br\/>Someone who\u2019s honest might answer: <em>\u201cI want to have it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now there are just threee choices:<\/p>\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>They make peace with their heart and wait to win the lottery.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They actually start working to earn it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They stop telling themselves that sentence and look inside for another, more authentic goal.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">None of the three is easy.<br\/>Even giving up a dream is painful.<br\/>But continuing to dream it without taking a step is even more frustrating.<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So what now?<\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">More questions<\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Why do I want to go around the world?<\/em><\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>To see new places?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>To eat different dishes?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>To meet people?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>To tell what I see?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Or\u2026 simply because I feel bad where I am?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If it\u2019s the latter\u2026 everything changes.<br\/>It\u2019s not a desire to explore. It\u2019s a need to escape. <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And if the problem is where you are, maybe you could simply move.<br\/>But even here: be careful.<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Why do I feel bad where I am?<\/em><\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Is it the people? (Wherever you go, you\u2019ll find other people.) <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Is it the place? (Climate, landscape, rhythms?) <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Is it the state? (Culture, rules, values?) <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And we\u2019re only at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How do you understand what you want?<\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe you need to stop, for a while, wanting.<br\/>Only then can thought start to wander freely again.<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stopping wanting isn\u2019t easy.<br\/>We live constantly bombarded by desires that aren\u2019t ours.<br\/>From the earliest years, our \u201cwants\u201d are influenced by everything: family, school, media. Even by those who love us and mean well. <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So it\u2019s about making a <strong>clean slate.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And where do you start from?<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">From TV.<\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Conclusion (or beginning)<\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Turn off the TV tonight.<br\/>And ask yourself: <em>\u201cWhat do I truly desire, if no one were watching me?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The answers won\u2019t come immediately.<br\/>But that\u2019s the path.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Priority: what you give precedence to.Goal: what you want to achieve.Are they the same thing? No. Yet we often confuse them, and that\u2019s a mistake that complicates our lives \u2014 quite a bit, actually. How many times do you hear: \u201cMy goal is to make a lot of money so I can travel the world.\u201dThen [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20,19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-191","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mindfulness","category-personal-growth"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=191"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":194,"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191\/revisions\/194"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=191"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=191"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.iononsonomarcomontemagno.it\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=191"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}