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And not you, reader. You who write (I for you and you for the mind that dictates these things to me (yes, I know, I’m complicated)). You always complain that you can never form that group, that circle of friends with whom you would like to have great experiences. I tell you the fairy tale that it’s them who don’t want you (and maybe that’s also true) but you don’t stop to consider that if it’s so widespread, it can’t depend on “them”.

Let’s put it in very practical terms. Let’s imagine we all have a “magnetic polarity”: if you don’t match with them because your polarity is repelling towards them, it’s not their fault. In truth, it’s no one’s fault. Let’s avoid the word “fault”. It’s a problem, let’s say, magnetic.

It’s useless to cry over this. Acknowledge it and act accordingly. You say you want a group, camaraderie, solidarity, unity of purpose. But you are the first to always question everyone. Of course, you don’t say it openly to avoid raising discussions. Because discussions are not great experiences. Because you think others don’t consider you.

You are the first who doesn’t have unity of purpose. Barely, actually no, not even with yourself. You know it. Not a single project completed to date (almost 56…).

However, you have persistence in investigating, certainly in your own way, haphazardly. But you don’t stop looking, evaluating, hypothesizing. Without following preordained schemes, writings, teachings, lessons (even if you have attended various seminars from which you simply came out lighter in money but not without experience), schools.

No, you go haphazardly because you have to come out of it on your own. It’s in your DNA.

So the next time you complain because they promise you’ll meet on day X or that you’ll do such thing, remember it won’t happen. Not because they are bad (you perceive that because it’s in your DNA and it’s the push that then makes you write because otherwise everything would remain vague…) but it serves you to continue investigating. Speculating. Hypothesizing.

Conclusion

In the end, perhaps it’s better to accept that not everyone will find their ideal group. Personal differences and misunderstandings can be insurmountable, and there isn’t always a solution. Continuing to try to fit into dynamics that don’t belong to us can be frustrating and disappointing. However, this isolation can be an opportunity to explore other forms of expression and connection. Instead of insisting on relationships that don’t materialize, it’s more useful to broaden one’s perspective and seek new paths, discovering alternative ways to express oneself and find satisfaction. The search should be aimed at discovering these new possibilities, rather than reiterating something that doesn’t happen due to architectural issues.